Blessing Chioma Cecil-Dickson
I will be heartbroken at first but will accept the baby as mine and move on. If God forgives us our sins then we should learn to do the same. Life is full of ups and downs and it takes the grace of God to overcome some challenges. Nobody is perfect even though some of us are striving to be perfect. I will feel bad because he hurts my feelings. But I wil
l accept the baby as my own child and we will move on.
I’ll quit the relationship
I will refer to this situation as a difficult one. My spouse getting involved in an extra-marital affair means I mean nothing to her. Well, there is no problem without a solution. For every situation in life, no matter how bad, there will always be a way out.
I will make sure I hurt no one if such occurs; I will only look for a better way out of the relationship. I really would not be able to continue in such marriage because I would not be able to bear the sight of her carrying another man’s baby. I will leave the relationship.
Two things’ll determine my decision
Well, I will answer this question in two ways; if we already have children, then I might decide to let it pass and see the child as mine. But in a case where we do not have any children, then I am willing to let him go. I will let him be with the woman that had the child for him. He should go and have a better affair with his new woman.
I’ll take a new wife
If my spouse’s extra-marital affair produces a baby, as a man, I will search for a replacement and continue my life peacefully. Life is not hard. It simply means she is an unfaithful spouse, therefore, life continues. I will let her move in with the father of the baby she is carrying.
I will find a faithful woman who will respect me and would not cheat on me and know my worth. Then I will lead my life as peacefully as I can. I know such situation will be a painful one but that is the decision I will make. I cannot harbour an unfaithful woman in my house.
My partner should be ready for a fight
I will fight him with everything I have. Then he has to explain to me why he did what he did. I believe that having children outside marriage other than with one’s spouse usually results in many issues. In most cases, the children may see themselves as enemies and that is what I will try to avoid.
I don’t want to create a situation in future for my children where their lives would be threatened because of one child who’s not part of the family. As a wife, I cannot share my husband with another woman because that is not what I signed for. I will really fight him. After that, we would sort the issue out.
It’ll mark end of the union
Well, nothing is new under the sun. As a man, if such happens to me, she will have to take the baby to its owner and stay with him. I will not allow her stay in my house with a child that is not mine. Any attempt to return the baby to me could result in psychological trauma. I would not even consider an excuse. Frankly speaking, as long as there is no special covenant between us as a couple apart from our marital vows, that marriage is gone. No turning back.
I’ll accept my fate and take the baby
Adebayo Marcellina Favour
If my spouse engaged in an extra-marital affair which produced a baby, the first thing we would do is to make sure the baby is actually his through a DNA test. If the result turns out positive, I will accept the baby. Though I will be hurt, we have to move on. However, the mother of the baby has no place in my house. I am not ready to share my husband’s love and attention with someone else. I will accept my fate and take care of the baby.
DNA test’ll be conducted on other kids
If my spouse’s extra-marital affair produces a baby, I will not fight with her. The first step I would take is to conduct a DNA test on my other children to be sure I am their father. Afterwards, I will release her totally to the father of the baby. To me, she’s unfaithful and that is the only rational decision I can take regarding the matter. I will do this peacefully and make sure that no unnecessary scene is created.
I’ll forgive and let him know he hurt me
If my husband’s was involved in an extra-marital affair that produced a child, I will not take a rash decision. I will forgive him and equally let him know that what he did is bad and hurtful to me. I will not let another woman take my husband because some women are desperate. I will talk to him and let him return home.
I will speak to him gently ensuring I use the word of God. I really cannot allow another woman have her way in my home because of what can be considered a mistake.