A heated argument broke out in Randburg, Northern Johannesburg about why South African men hardly date, romance and/or marry Nigerian women. Funnily enough, it was Nigerian men who were debating the matter.
A Nigerian businessman and socialite popularly known as Kelly argued that he had heard many South African men say Nigerian women are ugly. When Kelly was asked if the assertion was true, he admitted that the Nigerian women he had seen in South Africa are not very beautiful.
Supporting Kelly, a Nigerian media practitioner, Odunayo Johnson said he has heard South African men said it many times that the Nigerian women they see in South Africa are not very beautiful. “I have heard inside Taxis from South African men that our women are not beautiful compared to South African women”.
However, a Nigerian Thought Leader and strong opinion moulder in the Nigerian community, Adetunji Omotola differed that there are many beautiful and successful Nigerian women in their thousands in South Africa who lay low and only frequent high-end spaces in South Africa.
However, Omotola admitted that these top Nigerian women are hardly seen except for the few who trade on the streets of Pretoria and Johannesburg. He affirmed unequivocally that an average Nigerian woman is not only beautiful but educated.
Zingiswa Makanda of Milla Communications (from the Nigerian women she has seen in South Africa) believes Nigerian women are tough and aggressive. She says Nigerian women come across as intimidating sometimes.
“They don’t think much of South African. They think South African women are cheap. I don’t despise them or hate them. There is a disconnect between South African women and Nigerian”
Makanda says Nigerian women are very beautiful and colourful and that they know how to make themselves look great… “but they are very stand-offish”. She added that perhaps her perception might change if she goes to Nigeria and see Nigerian women in millions and in different shapes, shades and forms.
Oluwakanyinsola Oshin of Better Africa Communications and Consulting says words on the street confirm Nigerian women don’t want to date South African men because South African men are lazy.
She opined further that an average South African man has a child or two, which is not popular among Nigerian men. “You know Nigerian women prefer a man without a child. I cannot also date South African men based on what I have seen in the country”.
Queen Ajadi, a Nigerian woman in Central Johannesburg says Nigerian women won’t roll with South African men because South African men are stingy. “I can never date a South African man. They are not responsible. See the way they abandon their women and children. You have to be chasing them to pay maintenance”.
Morris Mbatha, a South African taxi operator says he would love to date Nigerian women but hardly come across them frequently. “The few I have come across inside the taxi appear very proud. Also, they don’t like it when you speak Zulu to them. I like them because of their actions I see in Nigerian movies”.
Mbatha says they are not ugly but don’t have the curves of the South African women.
Generally, about sixty percent of South African men we spoke to say Nigerian women are not beautiful enough and are not as beautiful as their women. Though many of them did not expatiate on their reasons.