“Am a Nigerian woman leaving in SA and am beautiful, educated and empowering other women. Beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder and also beauty comes from within. Beauty isn’t the face nor the shape but I believe it’s what comes from inside of you as a woman. Thanks”. These are the words of Abbie in response to the story – South African Men Belive Nigerian Men Are Not Beautiful Enough
Aduni Adeshewa also responded that: “I don’t blame South African women and people must stop blaming them. Our men go for them. Even if they go for our men. I feel some Nigerian women are just jealous that Nigerian men in South Africa prefer South African women. We, Nigerian women are too rigid and we forget that our men live here…a much more open and diverse environment. Nigerian women must wake up”.
A Nigerian media consultant in Pretoria speaks further for Nigerian women: “We are more committed to the institution of marriage than South African women. We are more submissive than South African women. South African women are not bad people but our historical development and upbringing are different”.
Nigerian women often react toxically when the issue of Nigerian men preferring South African women comes up. The story below was one of such.
Nigerian women across the globe lambaste Nigerian men who live in South Africa for preferring South African women to them according to a survey conducted by nigeriansinsouthafrica.co.za.
They essentially say Nigerian men who live in South Africa are into a transactional and commercial relationship with South African women.
“They only want them for permits and other nonsense things they do”; these were the words of Khadijah Kazeem who had lived in South Africa for 11 years before relocating to Dubai.
When nigeriansinsouthafrica.co.za spoke with Nigerian women who live in South Africa, these are their responses:
Tunwase Kalejaiye from Centurion: “There is a bitter truth in the matter. Many of our men prefer South African women for some genuine reasons. The men here came for money. We the women are here for money also. We can’t help them stay here. We can’t help their business aspirations. When they have South African women on their companies, it helps them get contracts”.
Blessing Okon from Northriding: “Our men here are not real men. They have lost touch with real values. How many of those South African women can they take to Nigeria to settle down with”?
Judith Akpu: “If I were them, I will rather go for Zimbabwean or Zambian women. South African women are over right- conscious. They are not ready to submit to men. So, it is the sick Nigerian men who go for them”.
Mayowa Badejo, a Nigerian nurse in Bramley says: “They are artificial and cosmetic men who love artificial and cosmetic women. It is the curves and the Coca Cola shapes of South African women they crave for. If they want real marriage and true love, South African women should not be their priority. Our values are different. Marriages fail in South Africa like the brake of a rickety car”.
Many other Nigerian women who craved anonymity said there is nothing wrong with South African women but that many Nigerian men who live in South Africa are not the true representation of Nigerian men.