In the light of Fathers’ Day, research reveals that men also suffer abuse but they hardly come out to tell as the narrative that women are the major victims of abuse is so overwhelming and men struggle in silence.
Academics are developing a programme, which supports men to see themselves as victims, challenging gender stereotypes.
BBC reported that Calan, based in Llandarcy works in concert with academics at the University of South Wales (USW) to develop the Compass programme, as some men who suffer abuse turn to him for help.
Michael Dix-Williams, project manager, re-ehoes the popular sentiment that men hardly come out as the stereotype that women are the major sufferer of abuse is too strong.
Up-to-date Crime Survey for England and Wales estimated that about 1.3 million women and 695,000 men experienced domestic abuse in the last year.
Calan disclosed that he deals with a caseload of more than 20 male victims at any one time, from south and west Wales.
A Dave, said his wife punched him one time and often made him feel “useless” because he was unemployed.
He said the wife also used his children as “tools” with threats to leave.
Dave said his wife ran and called the police after punching because her friend told her that: “if you want to get rid of your husband start a fight, call the police and they’ll throw him out of the house’. So that’s what she did.”
Dr Sarah Wallace, from USW, said said the fear of retaliation or lack of trust in the police form part of the reasons Domestic v=Violence and Abuse (DVA) are hardly reported.
She added that the issue of under-reporting is more pronounced amongst men, as men fear appearing unmanly, shame, embarrassment, and a failure to live up to masculine ideals.
She hinted that many men interviewed on the matter confirmed the notion
She also said:”This was the experience of the men we interviewed, who felt that they needed help to get to the root of these feelings.We know that DVA against men is a seriously underreported crime, and we know that 713,000 men were reported to have been a victim of one or more types of DVA. It begs the question how many more men are actually out there that are suffering in silence.”