Pastor Enoch Adeboye of the Redeemed Christian Church of God celebrates his wife’s birthday and entered into trouble with Nigerians.
The man of God’s whose view on marriage often collides with today’s youth tweeted on Monday to celebrate Mrs Folu Adeboye at 70.
Some Nigerians argue that the qualities he listed about his wife made her look weak and docile. They question the sage’s mentality about women and marriage.
Meanwhile, the man you may safly called the spiritual father of the nation backed up his points with biblical references yet many disagreed with him.
DADDY GO’S WORDS
She is a powerful woman, I know that. She has many people who take instructions from her, but as powerful as she is and even though she has seen me in my weakest moments, I have no doubt that I am her head. It does not matter what is on her itinerary if I say I would like you to go with me to so and so place the best she can do is try to convince me otherwise.
If I insist, she would cancel whatever she was to do and come along with me. The Bible in Ephesians 5:23 says: “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…”
The husband is the head of the wife. No matter how educated or successful you are, your husband is your head and you must regard him as such at all times. It is a terrible thing for a husband to feel his wife is his head. Many men are misbehaving in their marriages simply because they want to establish that they are the head of their wives. Also, my wife is my number one fan.
She wrote in the book Mathematics of Marriage – which we coauthored, that as my helpmate she knows she cannot help me without my instructions, so when they come, her response is Yes sir. Busy as she is, she still cooks my meals and serves me herself. Many young ladies these days leave everything to the house help.
My wife still trims my nails for me. There was a time when I was a teacher and was staying far from town. She had to cut my hair during that period. Anything I uphold, she upholds too. Can your husband rely on you?. Make up for your husband’s weaknesses, celebrate his successes, be his number one cheerleader.
I wish my lovely wife a Happy Birthday @PastorFAAdeboye.
In reactions to the tweets, many insisted that the kind of marriage he preaches is that filled with slavery and not love.
A user with the handle 77dreams tweeted:
Never read something so ……I have no words, this man epitomizes his generation of Nigerians, the foolishness, the lack of knowledge, wickedness of the mind, misogyny, I can go on and on. I feel very sick reading this.
Soniaeze-Who trims her nail, who’s her cheerleader, she’s not deserving of that. On her freeking birthday you couldn’t give the woman a break you just made the whole thing about yourself, she basically exists through your shadow. Her purpose in life is to serve you all the days of her life.
Meanwhiles, others root for pastor Adeboye, echoing his sentiments that marriage can only work with the principles of submissiveness:
Emmasft_: Reading through the comments, I could see a gigantic gap between two generations. One with understanding and the other with foolishness. A marriage of 52 years is talking, marriages that don’t last 12 months are feeling disgust, because of the word: “submissive”.
Another with the handle Surplus71203589 tweeted:
Trying to Follow this thread makes me smile ..I see an exemplary Christian home .. I know this is Gods idea of a perfect home ..Daddy I’m happy for you! You found a wife Mummy @PastorFAAdeboye. I promise God on this day to help my husband ( future) like you did .. God bless u.
In January, Pastor Adeboye said men should not marry women that cannot cook as cooking is part of the responsibilities of women in a marriage and many ‘ask for his head’ for saying that.
Then in February, he said that if his son is attracted to his female secretary, she should be fired and many argue his views are anti-women and pro-men.
Meanwhile, pastor Adeboye’s stance has been consistent that men are the heads in their homes and women should submit as set out by God.