Side-chicks syndrome trends more to day than ever and it is much more less stigmatised that it was decades ago.
Some people wonder why on earth some ladies decide and agree to be side-chicks or play second fiddle to their boyfriend’s real girlfriend.
Apparently, a lot of ladies have no qualms being the No 2 anymore.
The reasons they wanna be side-chicks are dynamically diverse:
An opinion poll revealed some of the reasons:
1:ATTENTION: Most ladies crave attention from their men. It is important to them, if that their men give them the required attention.
When they are attention-deficient, they naturally to any guy who gives them who priorities them, even if they guy is hooking up with another person.
2:MONEY: This is ranked as the number one factor by the majority of women. “If you can fund my lifestyle, I care less, if you are seeing someone else”, they say. Greed, poverty and low self-esteem are some of reasons most people choose to be side-chicks. If they had their ways, they want to be Number One.
3:SEX: Most ladies commented that for various reasons sex is also very important. In most cases, it starts off as being transactional and then becomes pleasurable. It then gets to a point where their status in the relationship does not matter so far they are satisfied.
Other ladies say they may stick to a guy who satisfies them sexually even if they can’t have him exclusively.
Meanwhile, psychologists and spirituality claim inability to wait for the right guy for you and poor willingness to help the partner who is poor at sex are other reasons ladies become side-chicks, for sex-sake.
4:CONVENIENCE: Researches reveal that weak and lazy ladies with low self-esteem w do it because it is just convenient for them. As long as no strings are attached, a lot of ladies these are comfortable with being a side chick. Other ladies confess that being a side-chick makes them less responsible and that’s convenient for them.
Not much is expected from both parties and this seems to work just fine for most of these ladies.
5:DESPERATION: In the poll, a high number cited desperation as one of the reasons they eventually get entrapped or fall for being the side woman in the relationship.
The fear of being dumped or being alone and not being able to find someone as good as their current partner makes them desperate enough to stay on as a side chick.
Underlying the desperation is hopelessness, faithlessness and lack of self-confidence that these ladies will get what they want. And also, some of them are not ready to work hard to earn the right guy.
6:HABIT: Some ladies acknowledge it is a lifestyle choice and admit they are beyond redemption. Some of them agreed there may be a spiritual dimension to it as the trend is observable in their family.
7:Societal Pressure: Some ladies admit that they are under pressure to date or marry, so they rather flaunt any guy, even if he is not exclusively theirs. At least, this keeps some voices of pressure off their back.
8:Peer Pressure: Some ladies also admit they chose to be side-chick to compete or show off to their friends that they are not stranded. Additionally, some friends pressure and persuade their peers to just get somebody and those pressured yield, as they lack righteous will and self-confidence.
9:Marital Ambition: A few ladies also disclosed they choose to be side-chicks as they are under pressure to get married and they don’t mind being a second wife.
10: Loneliness Many ladies admit they can’t cope with loneliness, hence they go for whoever is available.
Loneliness is actually a state of mind of feeling lonely more than once a week.1
It causes people to feel empty, alone, and unwanted. Some people who are lonely often crave human contact.